May 3
BrianJMcGinn , Posted on SUPPORT NETWORK Blog

My Husbands Stroke

My husband had a hemorrhagic stroke on the right side February 28, 2015. It's true, your life can change in the blink of an eye. At first, it seemed text book, the Neuro surgeon on call didn't seem alarmed. Then suddenly he crashed, the bleed got worse, they whisked him away to icu, put him on a ventilator and I was faced with a decision I wasn't ready to make. The surgeon told me if he didn't have surgery, his chance of survival was maybe 10%, if he did have surgery, there was a great chance he wouldn't make it through. My god, what do I do? As bad as life was in those moments, somehow there was something working on our side. A good friend in the medical field said, "if that was my wife I would do the surgery. If you don't do the surgery and he dies, you'll always wonder..., at least with the surgery you'll know you tried." Luckily, the surgeon on call was one of the best in town. We had so much family and friends there at the hospital, so much love and support. Brian came through the surgery well, the surgeon, a very serious man, even had a slight smile when he came to tell me it was a success. Of course, that was the beginning of our journey. With a year behind us and quite a few bumps along the road, we're doing alright. One day at a time. We have each other and lots of love and support. It's time to reach out to the community of other stroke survivors now, so here we are.
  • Mudfence61338
    Glad he made it :)
  • Conwell
    I am so glad he made it.
  • julieb
    i can't tell you how much this has been helping. more of my fears came out tonight. i will write it and post it soon. i have a wonderful woman in my life who had to make the decision. she knew how i felt about dnr and said no, not this time. every daay is more wonderful than the last. 72 feels good. i am so happy she did what she did
  • mdward80
    Congrats on making it through. I'm a 2013 hemorraghic stroke survivor. My wife made those same tough decisions. When i made it to the hospital by ambulance, they said it was nothing they could do. After 5 days in a coma, on life support with no surgery, God healed my bleeder and i'm currently learning how to walk after initially being in a wheel chair. My wife's faith was so strong in the decision making processes, they thought she was in denial. It was her belief on God, that has me appearing as if nothing ever happened. Her belief and caretaking have saved me. i love her.
  • BevPohlit
    Wonderful story!!!! Thanks for sharing! ❤️
  • Trish Peterson
    Trish Peterson,
    God's richest blessings to you and your husband as you continue your journey to recovery.
  • DenisPopp1
    Decisions are difficult. That is why, I have spoken to my wife who also has medical proxy and can make decisions.Still tough I am sure for her I also have a DNR ststing I want no heroic ( hook ups to machines to keep me alive) ultimately her decision. I however do not want to be a burden, I want quality of life not survival. I am a strong believer in the Power, Mercy and Grace of God. I do believe all will be done as accorded by his plan. Denis
  • louis
    Yea Team!!
  • BrianJMcGinn
    Thank you for your support and kind comments. We were totally unprepared for this event, in our mid 50's, no health concerns to alert us to the possibility of a stroke. Needless to say we are very prepared now! I did know in my heart that Brian wasn't done, he is still in a wheelchair mostly, but make progress everyday. He has no mental deficits, never lost his speech or memory. I'm the one writing this because I'm the more outspoken of the 2 of us. We have faith that he will be walking more and more. He did have a set back this year, he was over confident one day and fell and broke his hip and shoulder. It was his weak side that was injured, so it set him back a few weeks. Our relationship has gotten closer through all of this, he shows his appreciation everyday. I had to leave my business and become a full time care giver, do things I never thought I could. I would gladly do now. To have my husband is such a joy. My advice to anyone would be, get your ducks in a row, have a medical, financial power of attorney, a living will. Taking care of my husband is the easy part, the hard part is all of the red tape with insurance companies, social security, banks. I've become a more assertive person. But you know, I've learned a lot of valuable things and it's our life, we just do it.
  • Billkeck
    Bless you and your husband and thank you for giving me the opportunity to share the experience of my stroke and hopefully encourage you both. I am 70 years old today. 47 years ago at the age of 23 while in the desert of Khafji, Saudi Arabia I woke up with transient paralysis on my right side because the capillaries were inflamed and not allowing blood to "feed" the left side of my brain. At times I could not walk, talk or use my right arm...and then my functions would come back. Eventually I was taken to a hospital in Kuwait City. They wanted to give me a shot to relax me. I screamed "NO" because I was afraid I would not wake up. I gave in and took the shot. Six hours later when I woke up I was totally paralyzed on my right side and could not talk. I was angry and briefly thought of suicide but did not have the physical ability to even get out of bed. To test my brain I remembered the value of PI, 3.14159, and then wrote (using my left hand) some simple math addition and got the nurse to check my answer, which was correct. I figured I would be a wheelchair bound civil engineer for the rest of my life. I have a ten page accounting of this with more detail. My email address is Most importantly there is a happy ending. It took me a year to recover. Three years after the stroke I tried out for the Chicago Bears (didn't make it). Three years later I married and we have three kids who have given us six grandkids. I still have slight disability but it is not apparent. I live in New Orleans. I will retire in another year and travel around the country to visit grandkids and family in Louisiana, Georgia, New York, and California. Persevere because there is hope and much better medical help today. I have empathy for you and wish you the best and a good future.
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