Oct 14
matt1975
matt1975 , Posted on SUPPORT NETWORK Blog

Aortic aneurysm / aortic dissection

Hello my name is Matthew McCormick, I suffered an Aortic Aneurysm / Dissconnect on Sunday August 14, 2016.  I never knew that I had any type of heart condition until that day.  I am 41 years old and this came as a complete surprise to me and my family.  I live with my fiance and we have our children every other week.  I have two girls and she has two girls and one boy.  On the day that my aortic aneurysm burst we had all the children with us.  Although this was a very dramatic situation for me it was just as dramatic for the rest of my family.  Two weeks after having my open heart surgery I had to go back and have another surgery because I had a an infection around my heart.  They had to open me back up and clean out the infection.  I then had to have an antibiotic IV for six weeks.  I have had a very hard time dealing with the depression and on top of dealing with my depression my fiance has been having a very difficult time dealing with my depression as well.  I don't know exactly how to deal with everything that is going on in my life.
9 Comments
  • thewilltolive
    thewilltolive,
    hello there, i had a similar reaction back in june 27 2015, had a mild stroke and after 6 days in icu was diagnosed with congestive heart failure due to chronic afib, i also was totally thrown for a loop , depression set in quickly and all the thoughts of having a massive stroke or heart attack, well it was a long road to travel but with the right meds and my cardiologists help i am now doing ok,im 56 now and living with permanent afib as cardioversion was a failure , i now take 6 drugs a day and blood pressure is under control , i know how you feel believe me, if u want to keep in touch with me feel free to do so , my name is don, relax and get better ,
  • BrendaDnNC
    BrendaDnNC,
    Matt, I just wanted to weigh in and give you some support. I don't have an experience like yours, but I can certainly identify with the depression that sets in after a major life course-change like you've had. For me, my life-changing event produced not so much depression as over-the-top (WAAAYYYY over-the-top) anxiety. I hope you AND your fiance will consider getting some counseling to help you work through this new and unwelcome development.
  • Alani
    Alani,
    Hi Mathew, I want to let you know that I suffered a hemorrhagic stroke June of 2015. I was pretty much in good shape and stayed close to my doctor so all my stats was good for a healthy 55 year old woman paddler and hiker. Seek out help for your depression. Counseling for you and your fiance. For me the stroke changed my life for ever as I am sure it did for you and hence depression because things have changed so much and not for the better. I read a lot of self development books bc I am a different person that needs to be strengthen inside and out. I am sure that I'll get my mobility back in time. I'm sending prayers to you and wish for you a quick and healthy recovery. Hang in there and take care of yourself. Sincerely, Alani
  • seamus
    seamus,
    Hi, I am sorry to hear you had yours fairly recently. I am a bit further down the line as I had mine at christmas, but although it is hard to believe this happened to you be glad that you are still alive and able to stronger as the time goes on. I am getting better but still got a long way to go, although I could not have got this far without the help of my husband. Also I did not realise how may friends we have got. Time is great healer.
  • mingo1
    mingo1,
    Hey Matt. I had a big heart attack in 1993 and then a defibrillator. Unreal place to have had the attack. Huge soccer tournament for my son and I just passed out with no warning right next to the referee's tent. Two doctors were inside as referee's and were on me in seconds. Next, the tournament was so big that the city had to have an ambulance on site for injuries...the EMT's were on me in minutes. Then, the hospital was about 5 minutes away. God was certainly looking over me and my family. I am doing really good now, but the first few months were tough, especially thinking of my great family. But, things do get better for sure and you will also. One thing I know for sure is that you need to keep busy all the time, especially during the first months. I have taken up coloring very intricate pictures that takes weeks to complete and the time flys by and I only think about staying in the lines. Sounds goofy, but it works. That might not be for you, but please do something to settle the mind. I know you will do great.
  • gadinaz
    gadinaz,
    Greetings Matthew, I'm a 16 month post stroke Survivor. I was totally paralyzed on my left side. Wheelchair bound for four months post stroke. Locked in two horrible group homes. Because unlike you, I have no family or support of any kind. Talk about depressed... Today I'm back home, taking total care of myself and living in a two story townhouse, walking between 2 to 5 miles every day and volunteering in the Stroke Center at our hospital. Some comments others have that I want to reinforce: * things do get better for sure and you will also. * you need to keep busy all the time, especially during the first months. * (you will be) stronger as time goes on * stroke changed my life for ever Matthew you have a brand new life, and as much as you prefer your old one {BTW we all did} the sooner you let go of that old life and look forward to your new life, your depression will subside. Matthew the above I promise. Greg
  • PeanutPlusTwo
    PeanutPlusTwo,
    I am going in for my first on Monday,I was told too join a support group to help deal with any questions that may arise,check on the groups and be sure your fiancee gets involved.I am 60 and new to this site so I have to wing it ,so to speak. Get well soon,,,,Barbara
  • popscolly
    popscolly,
    My heart troubles began in 1995. Subsequently, I had a double bypass in 1996, overtime four stents and then a stroke in 2014. During the recovery from the stroke, I went into V-tach. I was in a rehab facility. The staff doctor diagnosed my condition and I was hustled to the hospital. The cardiac doctors performed an ablation to stop the arrhythmia. They had to first determine the heart muscle that needed to be burnt to stop the arrhythmia. Throughout the ordeal, I held onto these word by Max Lucado: You will get through this. It will not be painless. It will not be quick but God will use it for good. As I write this, I am preparing to depart on a four day solo camping trip. I have depression also. For this, I see a psychiatrist. Talk therapy and medication has helped tremendously. If you do this, take your fiance with you. Having family involved in the healing process is very important. God bless you and keep you.
  • debbiereno
    debbiereno,
    Matthew I can only imagine how the shock of what happened to you has affected everyone, not only you and your finance, but all the kids. My husband had a stroke 17 months ago. It affected his right side. He continues to recover, but it's been hard on everyone. The grand kids don't understand why he can't chase them around anymore. Yesterday he tried to show one of them how to whistle and discovered he's improved some since he first had the stroke. We seem minor improvements daily. We try to stay positive as we adjust to our "new normal". It takes lots of love and understanding. Family members think he is depressed. We talked about it and decided the word we would use is "Sad". Sad that it happened, sad that life is not as easy as it used to be, sad that they don't understand what he struggles with each day, sad that it takes longer to do the simplest of things. He's not depressed because he knows he is still loved. He knows this is in God's hands. He knows other are inspired by the small improvements they see. Find something to be happy about every day, even if it's just opening your eyes each morning. Involve the kids, allow them to express their fears and concerns....communicate; no matter how difficult. Cry together if you need too....and then celebrate this new life and opportunity you all have to spend time together. As others have said, the sooner you can accept what happened and look forward, the depression will begin to lift.
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