Sep 17
UglyKid
UglyKid , Posted on SUPPORT NETWORK Blog

A Blog is not the answer we need more

A blog is a stranger talking to a complete stranger and I understand people are looking for help but reading words from people across the U.S. I feel is not the answer. I posted this letter to every place I felt I could and I will continue to do so until we can get something started: To who is may concern,
My name is Andy Dumas and I just woke up and had a crazy dream. First I have a pacemaker and have had one for 5 years, I have to admit I caused my own health problems I am an alcoholic that has not had a drink or a drug in 27 years as of 11/15/16. My life was a fast lane drinking driving hanging with the wrong crowd but all of the has changed and people as I’m sure you know tend to leave and stay away from you when you quit your addictions. The reason I am writing is because my life has changed so much with this pacemaker I find it very hard to find friends male or female who understand there are limitations to what you can and can’t do. I don’t want my life to stop because of this but I have to admit I am lonely and I basically hate my pacemaker as when I played sports or anything I did it with all I had now I can’t. I had an idea perhaps it is crazy but I dreamed there was an organization such as AA and such for pacemakers. Why can’t we start a group where we can meet each other and discuss how you feel about your situation as people who don’t have a pacemaker don’t understand how you feel, and with a group meeting starting small and getting to be something like AA or SA or any group like that? This would be a great way to find out how people really feel discuss their lives and perhaps meet a friend or a member of the opposite sex with the same condition , someone who understands what you can do and what you can’t and what you are afraid of and what you feel your limitations are. Personally I feel this would be great for people whose life has changed and find themselves shutting down and eventually just staying home with no or few friends and a fear of doing things because you feel you have limitations and perhaps they don’t exist. I would love to meet people that are in the same situation as myself to talk get their stories have a purpose in life as right now I feel I have none, yes I know you can talk to your doctor but that really doesn’t help just as in the other organizations I mentioned which seem to work very well and I know they have help people turn their life around. I have a small home and I would welcome people come to my home for a meeting or some type of gathering just to help each other as I feel I am not the only one who’s life has been effected the same way mine is. I would love to be a part of some type of support group and perhaps call it People with Pacemakers a place to meet, greet and share stories and make new friends. I hope you don’t take this as a joke as I am very serious I feel it would benefit 100’s if not 1,000’s of people to start their lives back to normal with heart problems in this case Pacemakers and how they affect you and your lives. Sorry about the grammar but I hope you can help me and thousands of others just like me as I would love to talk to others living my life in the same manner I see a shrink and have for several years but they can only encourage you as they don’t know what it is like to have this device changing your life and not knowing what you can do to change it. I look forward to hearing from you at ardklk1@yahoo.com once again my name is Andy Dumas and I really hope you can find your way to help us and people like us to adapt to a normal life and work as a force to help each other. Thank you for your time I truly hope we can start something some type of organization so we can work together and put an end to these lonely lives a lot of us are leading and feel like they are going nowhere and getting nowhere, any help would be greatly appreciated. Regards, Andy Dumas
  • UglyKid
    UglyKid,
    Thank you for all of the support we all seem to share and I got something from Katie from AHA and she would like to talk to see what we could do to start a support group and grow from there as I really believe other groups I belong to have turned my life around and I have no doubt that a support group for heart ailments would work also and give who knows how many a new look on life and change their lives and help others. I feel we have a start and with all of your letters to the AHA we will be heard and helped so we can get a start on local self supporting help groups.
dark overlay when lightbox active
dark overlay when lightbox active
dark overlay when lightbox active
dark overlay when lightbox active