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My husband had a massive stroke nearly 4 years ago and is suffering from depression. As far as I'm concerned, he has made a remarkable recovery, but he doesn't seem to feel that he has. I witnessed the event and he was being treated within 7 minutes. A very important factor to a successful recovery. Does anyone have any ideas to share that may help him.
AHAASAKatie, February 26, 2020 7:29am EST
I am so very sorry that you both are having to experience this. Have you talked to his doctors about medication to help with the depression? Would he be willing to try therapy? Depression is a common side effect of life post-stroke. I can share the resources we have and I look forward to reading what our members have to say as well. Best Katie
Matthew1, February 26, 2020 9:49am EST
This is very common in stroke survivors. I can lend some thoughts. I survived a massive stroke almost 4 years ago as well. There was permananent damage both psychically and emotionally. While every stroke and every person is different, it is quite common for survivors to have a different view on their recovery than those around them. In my experience, this is because much of the damage is not visible to others. It’s a change in brain function that can alter personality, views, moods, etc. So, one idea I have for you is to document his progress. Write down notes regarding progress and remind him that he is moving in the right direction. This is not a sprint but a long and grueling marathon for both of you. As a former athlete,, I can tell you that in a marathon there are peaks and valleys. The same holds true for stroke recovery. It’s not linear. Good days, bad days, sad days, happier days. THE KEY is to move in the right direction overall so you can look back and say “look how far you’ve come!”..another thought. It can be valuable and productive for him to get involved in hobby’s or interests that have nothing to do with stroke. Enjoying life produces positive vibes that can carry over into recovery and how we view the situation. Finally, if you think it could help, he could seek the help of a therapist . The emotional portion of recovery is as important as the PT, OT, Etc. Hope this helps. Good luck. Go one day at a time.
parisfellows, February 27, 2020 10:03am EST
Thank you for Katie taking the time to respond. Unfortunately my husband is allergic to many medications. We had a difficult time when he was going through his recuperation from the a-fib and a-flutter surgeries that followed his stroke. I was hoping he could use this forum to connect to others; due to our work schedule and availability of support groups in our area.
Thank you Matthew for your detailed and eloquent response. I really appreciate it! I'm very sorry to hear of your experience. He has also said this to me: "You don't know what's going on in my head". I try to empathize with his situation and show him what he has accomplished as a recovery. I will start documenting his progress as you have suggested, in hopes that may help him. I'm hoping he can sign up on this website so he may be able to connect with other survivors, much like yourself. Thank you again Matthew for your help. Hopefully you'll be able to connect with my husband soon.