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JeffB, December 24,  2018  9:26pm EST
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A Christmas moment

This time last year I was with Nick in a rehab facility, after having gone through several hand offs through his recovery post hemorrhagic stroke in August of 2017. I nearly lost my best friend and father figure. This year? We drove out to a local park that he I would hike in my very early years, drove around, parked at the visitor center and walked together to the observation deck out back. For the simple chance to be surrounded by trees, listen to the sound of the roaring brook (it's been a wet year in Ohio) and feel the crisp December air on our faces and necks.

I am posting this as tonight as it was a moment where I was almost able to grasp what it means to be emotionally resilient toward accepting change but not letting it truly define us. Just because we can't do the full 10 mile hike together anymore does not mean that we can't achieve the same experience. Spend time with each other. Celebrate a lifelong friendship.

Christmas is a great time to remember who we are. Where we have been. To dare to hope for a future full of courage and love. Together. Nick suffered a massive stroke but, through sheer will, strength, and friendships, he's alive today and just as alive as ever. As a heart attack survivor myself, Nick is still giving me those "dad" style lessons about life.

Merry Christmas everyone and Happy New Year.

J

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  • Spooky75
    Spooky75, December 26,  2018  4:30pm EST

    I LOVE this post! Thank you for sharing.

    "Just because we can't do the full 10 mile hike together anymore does not mean that we can't achieve the same experience. Spend time with each other. Celebrate a lifelong friendship." This is so beautiful. I suffered a stroke 6 months ago, and I still deal with frustrations. Can't walk as fast as I was able to before, but I managed to walk 3 5Ks in the past 6 months just to prove to myself that I could do it. Can't get on the elliptical machine and work out for 45 minutes like before, but I'll get back there eventually. 

    What's great is that I have friends and family who are patient and kind, just like you are with your friend. That's what truly matters. God bless you. 

  • ddsorin
    ddsorin, May 4,  2019  4:27am EST
    Hi Jeff
     
    Glad to see recovery is progressing ok for your dad.
     
    My mother(72yrs) suffered a serious hemorrhagic stroke last week and in 30 min she was taken to emergency hospital.
    She is still in ICU now, intubated.
     
    The hemorrhage was 1inch in size and it's located between cerebellum and brainstem area.
    CT scan showed after 5 days that the hematoma began to retract and is smaller now, about 2.2in
     
    Doctors said they need to wait more for the hematoma to retract before they can do surgery. but each day is difficult because the blood pressure is not stable so we don't know if she can last more like that and we are searching for any other possible options.
    I want to ask you if your dad was in a coma? what treatment he had, if he had surgery? or how the doctors treated the hemorrhage for him.
     
    Thanks, and hope i hear from you.
    Sorin
     
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