Bookie35
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Bookie35, January 31,  2021  6:44am EST

Daughter

Hello,

I'm new to this. Just found out my mom have congestive heart failure at the age of 52. I'm loss for words. I'm the oldest out of 5 and currently a nursing student. I just learned about this diagnosis in school. I'm trying to be strong for everyone. Trying to figure out ways to keep my mom here for the long run.

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  • AHAModerator
    AHAModerator, January 31,  2021  3:51pm EST

    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out on your mother's behalf. I can imagine how difficult and scary this must be. Unfortunately, I am not a medical professional, but I can recommend some resources like this one about Types of Heart Failure and this one on Personal Stories With Heart Failure. I hope these can provide you with some insight and comfort. Thank you for joining the Support Network and we hope you will be able to connect with other people who have been through the same experience. Please keep us updated on how you and your mother are feeling.

    Best Wishes,

    AHA Moderator

  • Gmccanna
    Gmccanna, February 4,  2021  11:40pm EST

    Sorry to hear about your mom's diagnosis.  Welcome to this forum, I'm fairly new year also. I'm 47 and was diagnosed with CHF in Sept 2020, and didn't know what that really meant, a lot of questions would pop up each day, exhausting.  Luckily we live in the age of some great health technology where ourselves with this diagnosis our family, and friends can worry less.  Now what I'm going to say next is what has helped me, it may not help others.   I found out a lot of my questions don't need to be answered, it was just me trying to keep things together, that in itself was unproductive and exhausting (investigate in circles on google).  I'm a guy, so I had to humble myself and trust some principles.  These principles have helped me and and once again may not help others the same way, but thought I share them anyway.  
    First, I'm not a doctor, I'm paying one and he went through many many many years of school and further education to be a cardiologist...I think I can trust him enough to do his thing without my crazy envolvements.  LoL. Though I'm in favor of second opinions, so that's ok I believe.  
    Second,  fellowship, we need to talk to others that are going through the same problem.  We humans are built with that factor so we can receive joy and hope to our lives and bring it to others.
    Thirdly, only your mom and others like her really know what she's going through, it's so difficult to explain what one's dealing with on any given day and why.  My wife learned to be EXTRA patient, kind, compassionate, understanding, and she learned asking what she can do for me when I'm having a bad day.  Also, when nothing can be done, my wife would just hold me or be near me quietly, that has given me strength and healing.  It's tough, my wife is a saint but every once in a while she snaps, I don't blame her, it's tough on everyone in the family, she's still my angle.   
    Fourthly, live one day at a time, I repeatedly state that for my family, it limits our minds from wondering into a zone of "should of - could of - would of - what if's - let's try this".   It eventually brings us a perspective of what really matters and enjoy the good things in life, specially during these tough times.  
    Lastly, seek ways to receive the gift of humility, this is a critical one, because all those principles before this one can be thrown out the window on the bad days, but seeking humility usually saves the day for me.  
     

    They've helped me and I hope they may help you and your mom.  
     

    I really do wish and pray for your mom to be blessed with happy joyful and free days with many years of longevity! :)

     

    GMcCanna

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