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"How to Silence Negative Thinking"
I love everything about this article. From a guy who has been his own worst enemy more often than not. I t lines up with my happenstance mindfulness techniques really well. It's startling when you pop the hood and you see your self saying the things you do in the privacy of your own head.
ThoseEyes, October 21, 2019 8:19am EST
About 15 years ago I started blogging. Back then my intention was to write down some things so I wouldn't have to think about them again and that I'd be able to show it to someone in the future if appropriate.
As far as it went, that was a good idea.. I kept writing, it evolved over time. It's gone in a variety of directions, but I'm still writting and I rarely share a post with someone.
My original intention there parallels with your post here. I examined whatever had stressed me, wrote it out and let it go. I've learned that people like me when they meet me, but they don't want to hear how I got where I am, so it's better left on Blogger. My letting things go skills have been finely honed. Life's too short.
JeffB, October 21, 2019 8:53am EST
That's a fantastic approach. I've been blogging for almost 10 years myself. Mostly as an exercise in writing than therapy. Still, later on, it became a vehicle in my recovery post-heart attack. Still, there are so many things that I hold back on as, well, you know, my mom reads my blog!
Anyway, glad you liked it. I really enjoy your posts here btw. You are very well thought out and have a good many qualities that I admire.
All my best,
ThoseEyes, October 21, 2019 9:22am EST
I hear ya Jeff, and thanks for the kind words. I'm a fan of yours too. No one I know is reading my blog. The positive there is that I write with no expectation of response.
My parents and only sibling all died decades ago, even my ex husband died in '02. I never had the deep roots "most" other people seem to have and that gets in the way of gathering moss, so it's me and Blogger.
When the triage nurse went into high gear and ushered me off to get an EKG I flashed, "Is this it?" and let it go as fast as the thought came to me. I let most things go that quickly, if they linger I type and release. (Every now and then I've resorted to speach to text and used my phone because typing isn't practical at the moment.)
The whole cardiac experience brought my strength into sharper focus and has given me even greater clarity. Heck, I drove to my former PCP's office and insisted on being seen. The NP was of the opinion that nothing was wrong and busily ordered routine labs along with a mammogram and Dexascan. Then he did an EKG and told me to go directly to the ER. They actually let me drive myself there. Minutes later I was making jokes in the cath lab. The glass is always half full, it's all small stuff and life's too short.
Mb120918, October 27, 2019 3:11pm EST
Hi Marsha and Jeff,
I'm a little late to the rodeo. I enjoyed the article and have a problem with this myself. You both mention blogging. Where are these blogs? I would like to read more about this if it is available to outsiders. I am interested in the process because I am 61 and still have that negative conversation going on. To really make some progress would Be a great thing.
ThoseEyes, October 27, 2019 3:47pm EST
Wow Mary. How to frame a satisfactory reply?
You would be bored with the minutia which constitutes most of the nearly 2000 entries there now. What's likely to be of value to you is what's already in the two posts I made here previously.
Write and release. Giving someone access to it would be the antithesis of that.
Mb120918, October 27, 2019 4:46pm EST
So what you are saying is the blogging is like a journal or diary for your private use?
ThoseEyes, October 27, 2019 6:26pm EST
Blogging means different things to different people and whatever that is can change from one entry to another.
Recently I wrote there about a lost credit card, some confusion regarding mail order meds, an instance during which I got my insurance company to act on my behalf with a provider, school, volunteering, cooking, neighbors, Internet connectivity issues. Those are all things you probably discuss with your husband in the course of your day. Writing about them would seem odd, if not ridiculous, because you probably can't imagine not having anyone to do that with. But write and release means it's over with, discussing with a loving other can mean things drag on.
It's unlikely you'd relate to anything in my history, the totality of which resulted in my being stronger than most people could ever imagine.
Having had a significant medical event is pretty minor overall IN MY LIFE. It happened. They dealt with it in the cath lab and the rest of me just fine. No lifestyle changes, no rehab. I ignore the tweaks and twinges because I know they're normal, and I take some meds every evening (I hadn't been taking anything before). There's no "why me?", no depression, no running to the ER, no calls to the doctors. I turn up when they tell me to, we smile and have a nice visit. It's only been five months and my meds are already being reduced.
Mb120918, October 27, 2019 6:58pm EST
Glad you are feeling well and getting on with it. I do admire the way that you process and release. Evidently I enjoy churning with it. Maybe some process and release exercises need to be in my future.
JeffB, October 28, 2019 8:10am EST
Here's an example of a blog from a young woman with heart disease and a fellow would-be through hiker - her's being cut short by her physical condition.
She, like myself, write a series of personal essays. Just sharing this for an example of how another person blogs thier experience. Find your voice and start typing those feelings out.
Mb120918, October 28, 2019 1:56pm EST
I see that this kind of writing would really help to get it out. I appreciate that you took the time to share this with me. I will be looking into starting something like this for myself.