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NewPacer73, April 8,  2020  11:27pm EST

Son living here has COVID19 Symptoms

My adult son lives with me to help me out. He was exposed to the virus at work and is now quarantined downstairs in his bedroom/bath area. I have to provide food for him at a distance. He gets curbside testing tomorrow. He is masked. I am masked when I go to the kitchen, and I'm disinfecting everything I can, including hand washing. My younger brother just died four weeks ago and asked me to become his executor. It's a very complicated estate. That is impacted by the fact that the pandemic is slowing legal processes to almost a halt. I am out of state and have to depend on attorneys in his home state to help. So, talk about emotional well being for a cardiac patient! Geez. I joined and will be meeting online with a grief group. I have a telemedicine counselor working with me through this. I'm a survivor of cardiac arrest, HOCM, pneumonia (had shot), intestinal infection, hospital just for fun infection, and for good measure Type A H1N1 flu (had flu shot too) all within the last 9 months. I think I can climb over these obstacles too. My dad called me the survivor of the four kids, and I think he had it right. smile  But enough is enough. This self quarantine I am in is a challenge as groceries and supplies we need are so hard to get online. We have friends making masks, sending supplies to the door step, etc. So, I'm really blessed. But I am wiped. On a blog at 11pm at night, for example. The more I let out my frustration with the current situation plus pandemic isolation, the better I feel. Consider this a therapeutic entry. If you are suffering stuff during this insane pandemic, write me your stories so I don't feel like why me so much. Thanks. An elbow tap and masked smile for everyone. smile Hugs coming later.

  • AHAASAKatie
    AHAASAKatie, April 9,  2020  9:41am EST

    NewPacer73, please know that our hearts are with you! I can share all the COVID-19 information the AHA has with you. If you need something specific, please do not hesitate to ask.  There are a lot of us on this site and we are ready to help, in any way we can. 

    Prayers for peace and good health, best Katie

  • AlyAHA
    AlyAHA, April 9,  2020  11:27am EST

    Welcome to the Support Network, NewPacer73. You have come to just the right spot to vent and hear other people's perspectives. First, I want to agree with your dad that you are a survivor. You have had a lot thrown at you over the past few months, but you are still moving forward. As you are grieving and taking care of your son, don't forget to my gentle with yourself too. It sounds like you have a great support system with food and supplies which is amazing to hear. Please let us know how we can help you. You're in my thoughts!

  • marshamd59
    marshamd59, April 9,  2020  11:43am EST

    Dear NewPacer73,

    Wow! You have been through and are going through  a lot dear lady! I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother and your son's scary illness! I'm glad you're taking every precaution you can and have some good people in your corner. You sound like you're a tough cookie and, boy oh boy, sometimes all you can do is tough it out. My mantra when things get really tough is from Finding Nemo, "just keep swimming".๐Ÿ˜‰ Sometimes all we can do is keep our head above water. I'll share a "kind of" of funny story. I tested positive a while back for h pylori which is basically a stomach infection that's tough to get rid of. I went on a round of antibiotics, but recently my symptoms reoccurred. Called the doc and he prescribed another antibiotic and something to help with the indigestion and stomach pain. Well, as usual for me, I got the more serious side effect of it dropping my blood pressure. I got so dizzy and sick to my stomach, I literally crawled on all fours to the bathroom and finally made it to my bed. I called my drs nurse, got cutoff just as she was telling me what to do. I called back and got put on hold forever!!! Finally hung up. My hubby took my blood pressure and it's was 60/32. I've had this happen before and knew we should probably go to the ER, but that's the last place I wanted to be. We decided to stick it out and let the drug get out of my system and luckily after a few days I started feeling better. I think back though and have to laugh, a 60 yr old lady crawling around on the floor. I scared my poor husband to death. Anyway, nothing like what you going through, but hopefully a giggle picturing me on all fours. Gotta find a reason to laugh.

    My husband and I are participating in th Worldwide Fast being held on Good Friday. I don't know if you've heard about it by they figure tens of thousands of people all over the world will be fasting and praying for all the sick, caregivers and first responders, praying for a cure, for our leaders and for our economy. You will be in my prayers dear lady. Try to take care of yourself, that is is the most important thing you can do! And, if all else fails, just keep swimming. ๐Ÿ ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ 

    Michelle ๐Ÿ˜˜

  • JamesPL
    JamesPL, April 9,  2020  12:02pm EST

    Hi Newpacer73,

    I am so sorry to hear the struggles you are going through but know that you are not alone. You are doing all the right things and making every effort to get past this as best you can. There are countless stories out there of the personal struggles people are having right now. But I am also impressed with all the goodness we've seen from people. Not only the incredible efforts of first responders, medical care professionals and essential workers but also those who have been so eager to help others and have provided comfort and support. It is these people that always give me hope and optimism during times of crisis we are now in. I hope and wish for you all the best as you continue to persevere!

    Thinking of you.


  • NewPacer73
    NewPacer73, April 9,  2020  12:16pm EST

    My reply to all of these wonderful entries: My coffee club made homemade masks that are washabble and left them at my front door today, then emailed me that they were there. So thoughtful. Small things like that make me know I'm not alone with this. And your wonderful. @marshamd, I'm going to keep swimming. Promise. Thanks for letting me know how we can do something special for those who are currently impacted by this pandemic. No time for looking backward. Have to put one foot in front of the other, or like Nemo, keep those fins moving. Thanks everyone!

  • AmbassadorB
    AmbassadorB, April 9,  2020  12:48pm EST

    Hi   NewPacer73,

    Just a few laughs -

                    1.  Still haven't decided where to go for Easter --- The Liiving Room or The Bedroom

                    2.  Homeschooling is going well:  2 students suspended for fighting and 1 teacher fired for drinking on the job.

                     3. This morning I saw a neighbor talking to her cat.  It was obvious she thought her cat understood her.  I came into the house, told my dog - - - we       laughed a lot.

                    4.  (You'll relate to this)   Quarantine Day 5:  Went to this restaurant called THE KITCHEN.  You have to gather all the ingredients and make your own meal.  I have no clue how this place is still in business.

                    5. Classified Ad:  Single man with toilet paper seeks woman with hand sanitizer for good clean fun.

                                  Stay healthy, New Pacer 73

    Ambassador B


  • Matthew1
    Matthew1, April 9,  2020  12:49pm EST

    Thank you for taking time from your temporarily tumultuous life to share your feelings. What you’re dealing with would break many people but you are obviously tough as nails! A quality to be admired. I am very sorry this is falling on you during a remarkably sad time for the entire world. That’s what this platform is for. To vent and to possibly get helpful advice. I can’t imagine what you’re dealing with but having been thru a major medical trauma, what I can tell you is: live 1 hour at a time. Don’t look too far ahead. Be in the moment and take care of YOUR health. This experience will make you stronger. Sending Best wishes and prayers. 

  • AmbassadorC
    AmbassadorC, April 9,  2020  9:31pm EST

    Welcome to the support network. As we welcome you with heart. No doubt you are going through allot at this time, but this is the very reason why we are here. Please feel free to vent any time. From my perspective as a heart patient, it’s very difficult when life throws us a curve ball, to try to stay positive. Here are some recent words I shared for patients that I’m hopeful will inspire you as you are the caregiver  of your loved ones at this moment. 

    Looking back on my journey as a heart valve patient, my words of encouragement for heart patients during this difficult time of novel COVID 19 that are plagued with fear and uncertainty, is to NEVER EVER give up having hope.  You must persevere and not lose sight that you WILL get across the finish line, one heart beat at a time.   Be patient with yourself, as every "body" heals and recovers differently. Try not to look to far ahead into the future, as it can become overwhelming with fear and uncertainty.  Rather, celebrate the small victories that come with each new day.  Most of all NEVER give up fighting.... " โค๏ธ 

    Stay strong and never give up hope. 

    With heart, 

    Ambassador C 

  • NewPacer73
    NewPacer73, April 9,  2020  10:11pm EST

    Dear Ambassador C

    Those words are truly about me. In all of these challenges, at first I was looking too far ahead. What if this happens? How do I go on without my brother? What if my son has COVID19, then what???? Will I get it??? After all of this is COVID19 going to be what takes me out??? That was week one. I had to really try hard to stay present. That is hard to do for a lady who always has a plan like me, but the truth is, I cannot control what happens next. My whole life has been about overcoming real challenges and I did it, but only when I allowed myself to live in today. This blog has been a great help. Here I am venting my feelings again at 10pm because it helps me deal with today and now. I remember looking back with real doubts that a pacemaker would keep me alive post cardiac arrest. And now, I don't give it a second thought. I never lived through a pandemic before. But I had today without symptoms and able to keep my distance from my son, yet tend to his needs. There seems to be a workaround to almost everything. Death is the most challenging since we were sure they were buying my younger brother some time. But it didn't work. He would literally kill me if he was here today seeing the stresses on me and trying to get it all done. So, I'm just doing my son for now, for today. And I don't really get why for sure, but I seem to have a huge reservoir of hope. Where it comes from I'm not sure. Maybe it's I've survived so much so far, why not have hope? So far so good. But your post is about me at times, getting stressed by saying so many what ifs. Thanks for writing it. Stuff on this site just makes so much sense. Especially the humor post. Stay strong. And thanks for the support.

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