janecrisler
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janecrisler, October 19,  2020  9:37am EST

Support needed

Good morning.  My husband is 68 and was diagnosed with CHF in 2005. 

Although he is doing well, it's hard for me to stay positive and not worry.  

I need someone to talk to about what it's like.  He's lethargic, depressed, crabby and not motivated ever to go for a walk or watch his drinking.  He went to a new cardiologist last week and had stress tests done.  Today he will get his results.  I'm hoping the cardiologist will "speak to him sharply" about his condition and what he can do about it.  But, I need support and someone to listen to me.  It can be very isolating.  He sleeps at least 14 hours a day.  

He was a professional chef, so he does a lot of the cooking at home, which is a great gift!  

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  • AHAASAKatie
    AHAASAKatie, October 20,  2020  9:51am EST

    Good morning, I am so sorry to hear that you are both experiencing this. Caregiving is really hard. I am going to share my most favorite article from Huffington Post.  When Caregivers are Honest it Makes Folks Very Uncomfortable.  For me, it expresses so much of what caregivers have to manage, think about, and then still stay positive for their loved ones. 

    Please know that you are not alone in this journey. 

    Best Katie

  • JamesPL
    JamesPL, October 20,  2020  7:24pm EST

    Hi Jane,

    I think you need to express these same feelings to your husband and his cardiologist. Telling your husband in a way that he might understand what his condition is also doing to you. Telling his cardiologist in a way that he might help to motivate yout husband. Perhaps you could be a little more creative in getting him to get out to walk. For example, instead of walking in your neighborhood, find a park you both might enjoy. My wife and I will go to various locations to walk just for a change of scenery especially during this pandemic. It's always nice to get out.

    I wish you both all the best!

    Jim 

  • toughrose
    toughrose, October 27,  2020  12:32pm EST

    Hi,

    I would be glad to listen to you.  Not only I have personally been through being a caregiver but also ongoing as my bf oversea working and just have heart attack few days ago.  I am unable to be with him and rely on his friends to communicate with me. When you are ready, lets' talk!

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