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RByars, February 3,  2021  12:21pm EST

New Here Need Help

I am new here and my circumstances seem to be a little different than most of you here from what I have read. I am a 54yo male who's wife has CHF with an EF of 30. She is actually significantly younger than me and circumstances have created a situation where I am her primary caregiver. I work full time and spend the rest of my time caring for her. There are so many factors that were not anticipated when we started this journey 3+ years ago. I know that this post is light on details but I'm just sticing my toe in the water here hoping to find some like minded people I can share with.

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  • AHAModerator
    AHAModerator, February 3,  2021  5:06pm EST

    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out to the Support Network and for sharing your experience with the community. I'm sorry you're going through a tough time with your wife after her diagnosis - she is lucky to have your support.

    As you hear from others on the Support Network about their experiences, I also recommend reading stories from AHA's Heart Failure Ambassadors to help you learn more about what the recovery process can look like.

    Please keep us updated on how you and your wife are doing!


    AHA Moderator

  • RByars
    RByars, February 4,  2021  10:30am EST

    Thank you for the response and the link. Right now, I am more concerned with MY recovery than I am about hers. 

  • Leigh727
    Leigh727, February 16,  2021  8:24am EST

    Hi, I'm brand new here too.  My very healthy 67 yr old husband started with HF several years ago. It's hereditary.  He has Vfib and a defibrillator which shocked him 12/31/20.  His Vfib started going off the wall shortly after and I dropped him at the hospital where they waited 2 days and then decided to do to ablations on the same day -one for afib and one for Vfib.  The next day everything stopped and they put him on life support and sent him to boston where he was for 2 weeks.  HE's home, feeble and everyday is a new challenge.  I work full time, cook, clean, care for the new puppy and I'm stressed beyond belief.  I love this man, but I worry about what happens if he doens't get much better.  I'm concerned that this will be my duty for the rest of his life and I am an active, social person.   All of this is so disheartening.  No pun intended.  I feel your pain.  

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