Corrie Miller - The Silent Heroes
Corrie is a wife and mother of two girls. Her hope in blogging is to reach others with similar stories.
They often go unnoticed, un-thanked or both - the supporters, the ones who make having a major surgery even possible. In the mass craziness that comes from having open heart surgery, I forgot to notice and thank the people, who without them, having this life-changing surgery would not have been possible. So, this one is for them.
I was 25-years-old when I had my open-heart surgery for five Atrial Septal Defects that I had since birth but were found later in life. I also had a 4-year-old and a 7-month-old at home. I was used to being the one who took care of everything at my house. My husband has always worked very long hours so I took on all the everyday tasks of running a house and raising children.
When we got the news I would need open heart surgery, the first question I asked was, “How can I take care of two kids?” I was terrified. I couldn’t see how having surgery was even an option for me at that time in my life, especially with one of my children not even being a year old. I wouldn’t even be able to lift her for months. Who would do all the cleaning, cooking and the many tasks that come with raising children? Who would get my girls to daycare every day while I was home recovering?
Turns out, I was worried for nothing. My husband turned into my own Superman overnight. He still had long hours to work, but between him and my mom, we figured out a plan to get the kids to daycare every day. Once my husband and children got home in the evenings, he took care of EVERYTHING! He turned into a man I barely recognized. The man who had only ever cooked me fried eggs was now standing at the stove taking my directions to prepare us nutritious home-cooked meals every night. He made sure life went on as normal as possible for our children and that I was able to heal without stress.
I know I’ve said thank you to both my husband and my mother for being there for me during that difficult time in life, but I’m not sure if I ever truly explained the deep gratitude I have for them. They gave me the ability to have a surgery that saved my life and took the weight of being worried about my girls off my shoulders while I healed.
So to all you silent heroes out there, I say thank you. Thank you for being selfless and taking care of your loved ones while they recovered from surgery. Because as scary it is to go through open heart surgery, it is just as scary to be on the sidelines. Without you, surgery wouldn’t even be possible. You are appreciated more than you will ever know.